Challenge

If a man's so worried about rejected, why does he like a hard to get woman? There's a difference between hard to get and impossible to get. A hard-to-get woman is a challenge. An impossible-to-get woman is a rejection. If he has the feeling that with you, there's no way, he's not likely to hang around for long. But if underneath your 'no,' there's a 'yes' struggling to get out, he may find that a big turn on. Breaking down your resistance can give him a sense of power and importance. It feels good to know that he's irrestible.

But however much a man wants to know that he counts, he doesn't want to count so much that he becomes responsible for you. Being hard to get not only gives him the feeling that you're worth something. It also gives him the feeling that you can take care of yourself. And that's important. If you can take care of yourself, he won't have to worry about getting 'stuck.' He can get involved with you, change his mind, and get the hell out without feeling he's leaving you bloodied by the side of the road. Most men do not want to hurt you. Most men, in fact, are so worried about hurting a woman that they go to great lengths to avoid doing so. Which is why if you appear helpless and vulnerable, you're likely to find men staying away in droves."

That is what James and Peyton said.